I thought I knew grief until my mother died in 2011. I didn’t have a clue and each day since I’ve learned to deal with it.

1. People think they understand but until they sit in the front pew they only have a glimpse of it. So if they are not there for you, know it’s because they don’t understand the pain yet.

2. Seek therapy or good friends to listen to you. Don’t do this alone, you need to talk to let the pain out.

3. Life does go on. Right now you can barely get out of bed, but know you can go on. God built you to get through the pain. He’s holding you up on those days you can’t hold yourself.

I read an article about grief and it said it came in waves. So damn true. There will be days you will be fine not a tear in sight then the next day everything makes you cry. That’s normal. It will be like that forever that’s the waves.

I look at the waves as knowing I’m surviving grief. They are hard but I get through them. As my mother use to say, just keep living.